Talking to your teen about dating

Talking to your teen about dating

Dating is an important aspect that you need to deal with while parenting your teen. You need to share a friendly relationship with your teen so that he or she is willing to listen to your advice regarding dating. When you see the indicators that your teen is ready for dating, have a talk with him on the subject, and consider a few important points before you broach the topic.

The following tips may help you talk to your teen effectively about dating:

1. Choose a good time to talk to your teen when you are in a good mood, and so is he, and both have sufficient time at hand.
2. Do not give the impression that you are going to preach some lecture on morality. Be a friend to your teen and arouse his or her keenness and interest to discuss the subject with you.
3. Communicate to your teen that a discussion does not mean a license to go ahead and date. Let him or her know that your discussion is meant to reassure both of you that you have correct ideas and information about dating.
4. Inform the advantages and disadvantages of dating, in terms of the monetary costs involved, the amount of time that will be required for it, and the positive benefits of dating too and understanding the opposite sex more closely.
5. Make it clear to your teen that dating or any other activity must not be pursued merely because “others are doing it, so I too must do it.” One must take an individual stand on everything, and go according to one’s own thoughts on such issues.
6. Convey to your teen that like with all privileges, dating too comes along with a sense of responsibility. The family values and social values and practices must be held high in anything that you do, including dating.
7. Be an active listener, and allow your teen to respond to your advice. Allow him or her to ask questions, make comments and come out with any thoughts freely so that you can address the issue more clearly for the teen.
8. Let your teen know that you are solidly behind him or her in everything. Assure your teen that in case any difficulty or problem that may arise, he or she must have the confidence to share the situation with you, instead of hiding it and complicating the matter beyond control.
9. Discuss sex frankly during your talk on dating. There is no advantage in avoiding the issue, and rather educate your teen about the perils of sexual diseases and unwanted pregnancies.
10. Overall, let your teen understand that dating is normal, natural and pure fun. With some thoughtfulness, teens can enjoy dating creatively and have lots of healthy fun that they actually deserve.

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